How to Care for the Father of Your Children This Father’s Day

By Tia Cristy

Father’s Day is a perfect opportunity to celebrate and show appreciation for the father of your children. Whether you’re in a romantic relationship, co-parenting, or simply want to acknowledge his role in your children’s lives, this day is about honoring his contributions. It’s not just for him, but for your children. They say the best gift you can give a child is to say nice things about their parent, and it’s true. 

So, no matter the relationship you have with the man in your children’s lives, here are some thoughtful ways to make him feel valued and cared for this Father’s Day.

1. Recognize His Role

Acknowledgment goes a long way. Start the day by expressing gratitude for his role as a father. Whether it’s a heartfelt card, a letter, or a sincere conversation, let him know you see and appreciate all he does for your children. Highlight specific moments where his actions have positively impacted your family—this will make your words even more meaningful. You children will be about to witness this respect and be able to emulate it as well. 

2. Plan a Day Tailored to Him

Think about what he enjoys most. Is he a fan of outdoor adventures, sports, or quiet relaxation? Plan activities as a family or for your children to do with him that align with his interests. Here are some ideas:

For the adventurous dad: Organize a family hike, bike ride, or a trip to an amusement park.

For the sports enthusiast: Arrange tickets to a game, or have a family-friendly sports day.

For the laid-back dad: Create a day of relaxation with a home-cooked meal, a movie marathon, or a backyard barbecue.

3. Involve the Kids

Encourage your children to participate in celebrating their dad. Handmade cards, crafts, or a surprise breakfast can make the day even more special. Let them express their love and gratitude in their own unique ways, fostering a deeper bond between them and their father. Studies have shown this type of respect towards parents can go along way in life and help your child grow with a healthier mindset and social connection down the road.

4. Gift Thoughtfully

While material gifts aren’t necessary, a thoughtful token can show appreciation. Consider his hobbies, needs, or things he’s mentioned wanting. Some ideas include:

• A personalized photo book or frame with family memories.

• Gear for his favorite hobby, like a new set of golf balls or cooking utensils.

• A subscription box tailored to his interests, such as books, fitness, or grooming products.

5. Give Him Time

Sometimes, the greatest gift is time. Whether it’s uninterrupted moments with his children or some time alone to recharge, consider what would mean the most to him. A few hours to pursue his favorite activity or simply relax can be incredibly refreshing.

6. Share the Day as a Family

If your relationship allows, spending Father’s Day together as a family can create lasting memories. Share a meal, play games, or watch a movie as a unit to highlight the importance of his role in the family. Blended families can even try this type of celebration. Kid’s enjoy seeing all their parents getting along if they have more than one set.

7. Celebrate Co-Parenting

So, as we tapped into a bit already, remember, if you’re co-parenting, Father’s Day can be a chance to show unity and respect. Encourage your children to honor their dad, even if the two of you aren’t together. Your ex can follow your example for future holidays as well. A simple acknowledgment, like a text or a thoughtful gesture, can reinforce a positive co-parenting relationship. This time can be a learning moment for everyone involved in what it takes to be influential parental figures to your children.

8. Reflect on His Strengths

Take a moment to reflect on what makes him a great father. Share these thoughts with him, and if you’re comfortable, share them with your children as well. Focusing on his strengths reinforces his importance in their lives and boosts his confidence as a parent.

Father’s Day is a reminder of the vital role fathers play in their children’s lives. By showing appreciation, planning meaningful activities, and fostering a spirit of gratitude, you can ensure the father of your children feels cherished and celebrated on his special day.

Final Thoughts

Now, if you are recently involved with a man who has children, remember to acknowledge him in his role as a great father, but understand the day isn’t about you at all. Be flexible in how he wants to spend time with his children, whether he wants you there or chooses to spend it the way the children prefer. It takes time to become a family, so show grace and don’t hesitate to speak to a professional if you need further direction in integrating into an existing family dynamic. 

Happy Father’s Day to the dads, uncles, Godfathers, and men who make a positive impact in the children’s lives every day!