By Carey Conley
There are very few things in life that are truly outside of our control. I know you know this, but do we really apply this truth when things get really tough?
So, what do we do about the things that are inside of our control to improve the quality of our daily lives? One thing that has helped me is to make a choice to shift my perspective on the situation; to literally change how I see and feel about it.
I believe this to be a three-step process:
First, we have to believe that we CAN actually make this shift. Too many times, we feel, and even state out loud, that what is happening to us is something we can’t change. Without first making this shift in belief, it will be impossible to take steps two and three. Start with committing to changing your belief.
Second, acknowledge the situation and how you are feeling about it objectively and removing the emotion as much as you can. Easier said than done, I know! You will notice, however, that when practiced with the lesser intense situations, you will be able to handle the bigger adversities with much more ease and peace.
Lastly, look for and start implementing ways you can see things differently. Talk it out with a friend who is good at seeing things in a better light. Start asking God to show you what the lesson is in this and be open to new ideas that come to you. Get around people who have maybe been through this already and figured out a way to change how they saw and reacted to things. Having a strong community is key!
Remember to not close a door before looking for the window, and know that MIRACLES (my word for the year) do happen with Faith.
