Let’s explore why first impressions count, how to nail them (even on Zoom), and why taking time to develop your style might prove to be your secret weapon.
First impressions are lightning fast—seven seconds to be exact. In those seven seconds, someone’s already decided if you’re trustworthy, capable, or if they find you attractive enough to swipe right. Ever meet someone whose zipper was undone, or who had green stuff stuck in their teeth?
Exactly—you’ll never forget it! Like it or not, first impressions matter, and they stick.
No pressure, right? The good news? You can influence those seven seconds! How? By paying attention to how you present yourself. The bad news? You don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression!
Now add video calls to the mix. Suddenly, your messy bookshelf or unmade bed is part of the equation. People don’t just judge your outfit anymore; they’re analyzing your lighting, audio quality, and whether that’s a pile of laundry in the background. Yes, virtual first impressions are a thing—and they’re just as important, as they represent whether or not you are paying attention. Pro Tip: Look into the camera when you are speaking rather than at your or their face on your screen.
Why First Impressions Matter
Professional Success
Studies show that put-together individuals are perceived as more competent and confident. Whether you’re vying for that promotion or nervous about meeting a prospective date for the first time, looking the part is half the battle. (Translation: no one will take your million-dollar idea seriously if you’re in pajama pants.)
Personal Relationships
First impressions can make or break date night. In friendships, dating, and even meeting your prospective new in-laws, your appearance can speak volumes before you say a word—as can theirs! Hint: If you’re meeting someone at a venue unfamiliar to you, do your research! Find out the typical dress code and dress accordingly.
Confidence Boost
There’s no denying it—when you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good, you radiate confidence, and confidence is sexy—and contagious. Knowing you’re looking great shows up in your handshake, smile, or even on a video call. Pro Tip: If you’re not sure if your first choice of what to wear is the best, ask a friend you trust for their opinion!
Personal Style Analysis
If first impressions are crucial, image consultants are the magicians who make sure you’re always on point. An image consultant’s first step? Helping you cultivate your unique style. This is especially helpful if you’ve just gone through a midlife transition such as divorce, empty nest, or retirement, as the version of yourself you’ve presented to the world for decades might no longer serve the version of you that is emerging. It’s an inside-out job, so if your consultant is good, she’ll know it starts with an assessment of where you are now, then helping you clear the closet of what no longer serves you, and once you have a clean slate, designing a style and wardrobe congruent to the new you.
Tip for those of you with light-colored eyes (blue, green, hazel): The psychology of color states that when we wear items that match our eye color, people trust us more!
Grooming and Personal Care
Even the best outfit can’t save a bad haircut or scruffy beard. Pro Tip, especially for those in menopause: A little makeup goes a long way to help us look and feel vibrant and young!
Body Language Coaching
An image isn’t just about looks; it’s also about how you carry yourself. Pay attention to your posture, gestures, and even your handshake—make sure all aspects of you radiate confidence. Pro Tip: Eye contact helps others feel comfortable with you.
Wardrobe Organization
Have a closet bursting with clothes yet feel like you have “nothing to wear”? Most of us are best served by having professional help taking an honest inventory of everything in our closet. A professional image consultant will help you declutter and build a wardrobe so you’re ready for anything—from the boardroom to brunch dates and cuddling.
Video Call Survival Tips
In the age of virtual meetings, first impressions have taken on a digital twist. Here’s how to ace your next Zoom call:
- Lighting is Everything: Position yourself facing a window or invest in a ring light. No one wants to look like a villain from a horror movie.
- Dress the Part (Fully): Yes, even your pants. You never know when you’ll need to stand up unexpectedly.
- Declutter Your Background: Unless you’re making a statement with your Star Wars action figures, keep it clean and professional.
- Eye Contact is Key: Look into the camera, not at yourself. (We know, it’s hard.)
- Mute—and even blocking your camera—is Your Friend: Especially if you have pets, kids, or a tendency to multitask.
Tips for a Winning First Impression
- Think of your outfit as the frame, not the painting. The emphasis is on you.
- Have a physical feature that stands out (e.g., a prominent nose, large bust, or hips)? Carefully chosen pieces can mitigate the impact.
- Master your colors. They’ll not only make you look sharp but also boost your confidence.
- Plan ahead. Nothing kills confidence like a last-minute wardrobe malfunction.
- Shoes matter. Keep them stylish and polished.
- A modern haircut can do wonders (for men and women!).
- Accessories matter; they should add, not distract.
- Invest in a great bag or briefcase.
Final Thoughts
First impressions aren’t just about looking good; they’re about presenting the best version of yourself. And in today’s world, that means being ready for anything, both in person as well as virtually.
So, whether you desire more success, are ready to meet “the one,” or are just trying to avoid being the “forgot-to-mute” meme on Zoom, your image is your superpower!
